Etiquette question

Does anyone still know that putting your silverware across your plate
means you're finished? Servers don't seem to most of the time.


7 comments:

Robin Abrahams said...

No one knows this anymore. Except this one guy who wrote to me once, saying that his parents had always taught him to do this, and his girlfriend didn't, and he was afraid when he took her to meet them for the first time that they would judge her negatively because she doesn't parallel-park her utensils.

I told him to get therapy.

eeka said...

That's awesome.

I usually put mine in a big X across my plate. They still ask if I'm "still working on that." Or in particularly Massholeish establishments, if I'm "all set with that."

katunia said...

in germany it usually works like this: if you put your fork at 8 o'clock and your knife at 4 o'clock both pointing towards the center of the plate (but not touching each other) it means that you're not done eating. if you put fork and knife parallel at roughly 5 o 'clock pointing towards the center it means that you're done. it works fine in better restaurants (or at a family dinner...).

eeka said...

That's what people are taught here, too, but it seems people don't know it anymore.

In Germany, you usually have to ask them for the check!

katunia said...

oh yes, if they bring the check before I asked for it I take it as a rather unfriendly way of telling me to leave (fast)...

ericjay said...

At some point in my life, I learned that knife and fork on the plate parallel to one another means that one is done eating, but if they're crossed, or pointing towards each other, it means that one is still eating.

I don't know where I learned that, though... and from my years waiting tables, I can say that many, many people do not know it. As a result, I saw plenty of people cross their tableware even when they were finished.

donna said...

pushing my plate into the center of the table is the only thing that works for me. since i eat only a small part of that portion that could feed a small family, servers can't quite believe i'm done "working on that."

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