WBUR misrepresents adoption as expensive

This story about a family who is helping another family through surrogacy is really beautiful.

It was disturbing though, as I listened to this on the way to work this morning, to first hear "they decided adoption was too expensive," then hear "about $30,000 worth of medical co-pays, legal fees, even maternity clothes and prenatal vitamins."

The author really should have done some fact-checking and found that domestic adoption is generally quite a bit less than $30,000 for an infant, even a white one, and adoption through the Massachusetts Department of Children and Families is free. It's fine that the family decided adoption isn't for them, but the story should have stated this, rather than the author perpetuating the myth that adoption is expensive, when it in fact can be free.


3 comments:

christine said...

true. domestic adoption, and adoption of non-infants can be very inexpensive. But the foreign adoption nightmare stories (like my friend Keri who had tried to adopt her adopted daughter's sister from Russia) turn people's stomachs and minds. Keri is out over 45,000 bucks on Anya's adoption, and will never be able to get her here to the US.

When her daughter turns 21 she can petition the government to bring Anya here on a sole survivor sibling thing. but ... it takes 10 years AFTER the initial claim is placed to see it through to completion. by then the girls will be 31 and 32. Crazy.

But anyway -- you're right. They really should have done better research about domestic adoption costs.

eeka said...

Yeah, Keri's frustrating story certainly stands out. I know I think about them often.

The story-that-stands-out factor is true too with other misrepresentations people hear about adoption; you hear about the few kids from foster care who are really disturbed and can't get proper services and whose families have gone bankrupt trying to help them, but you don't hear about the millions who deal with the effects of their trauma and are fine.

You hear about the few kids adopted internationally who were misrepresented and turn out to have severe psych disabilities when the family had been assured a non-special-needs child, but you don't hear about all the ethical, professional adoptions in which information was correctly disclosed (nor does anyone rush to say that raising biological children is corrupt and dishonest and needs to be stopped when their biological child grows up to have a disability).

You hear about the few-and-far-between birth families who stalk the adoptive family, but not about all the successful, nurturing open adoption relationships.

Supergirl said...

Even domestic private adoption is usually less than or equal to 30K. Open Adoptions in Oregon quote their expenses around 25 to 35K. Only foreign adoptions are generally 40-50K, while IVF is 10K each attempt.